Charisma can be learned

Nelson Mandela and Princess Diana had it. George Clooney also has it: that certain something - that special charisma that fascinates us: Charisma. We give charismatic people our full attention without knowing why. We listen with excitement to their words and feel connected to them. What is Charisma? Why are we not all perceived as charismatic?

First, we need to know that Charisma does not mean "who we are", but "how others see us". And that doesn't just depend on appearance. A special appearance and how it is felt by others begins with our thoughts. What we think about ourselves and our environment is reflected in our choice of words, voice and above all body language. This in turn affects how we are perceived by others: Am I often approached by strangers or am I the one who approaches people? Do I appear trustworthy? Some people seem to be born with a great charisma. They appear charismatic and are professionally and privately more successful than others without charisma. In fact, we can work on our charisma. The following tips will show you how to achieve more charisma:

1. Be self-confident.
People with charisma have a strong self-confidence and are aware of their strengths and weaknesses. They are not afraid to "touch".

Tip: Imagine what your strengths are. What you like about yourself. Ask friends and acquaintances about your effect. What they appreciate about you. With each realization you will gain self-confidence. Concentrate on your talents and promote them instead of focusing on your weaknesses. Overcome your shyness, e.g. by asking a stranger for the way. Avoid filler words like "actually" and make clear statements. Rhetoric seminars specifically train the expressiveness of the language. Pay attention to your body language: stand up straight, look with your opposite, do not cross your arms in front of your chest. With sport you strengthen your muscles and improve your posture.

2. Love yourself.
Accepting yourself and others forms the basis for a positive charisma.

Tip: Meet life with a smile and it will smile back. Try it out! Give yourself a smile in the bathroom mirror in the morning instead of critical looks. Continue to try to consciously replace negative thoughts with positive ones during the course of the day. This can be a bit unusual at first. If something goes wrong, try to recognise the positive and the chance of the situation.

3. Signal interest.
Anyone who is interested in others, asks questions, also has an interesting effect on others. Interest also means adjusting to different situations and people and behaving appropriately.

Tip: Be curious about people or situations and be surprised what you will discover. Try to be empathetic and get involved with your counterpart. It is important to find common topics with your conversation partner, to inspire him, to take a step back or to listen sensitively - just as the respective situation requires. It must be authentic, otherwise it seems artificial and leaves your conversation partner unimpressed.

4. Follow the inner path of life.
Often we let ourselves be influenced by others.

Tip: What do you really want? What gives you strength? Listen to yourself and trust your gut feeling. Plan your trip to Costa Rica, visit the photo course. Whatever it is, find it out and do it. It helps to visualize wishes, to imagine "how it would be if". The thought is "sown" and can now flourish further - according to the principle of self-fulfilling prophecy.

5. Keep moving.
Self-confident people approach something new openly.

Tip: Surely you know situations that one would like to avoid better, such as having a clarifying conversation. Use such unpleasant occasions to leave your "comfort zone" once a day, i.e. the safety area where you feel comfortable and do not have to exert yourself. You will feel a little uncomfortable, but the "small risks" make life more exciting and increase your charisma.

6. Express yourself.
Charismatics infect others with their passion.
They have strong emotions of their own and can empathise with the feelings of others.

Tip: What do you want to convey? Search in advance for the right words, gestures and accents. Are you inconspicuous? Show yourself, but stay authentic. This also applies to your clothing style. The more clearly you present yourself to your surroundings, the more lively and courageous you appear to others.

7. Take responsibility.
The outside cannot be changed, the personal attitude can.

Tip: If you are dissatisfied with a situation, consider what part you play in it and how you can change your perspective.