Your Soul

Confidence: Find your inner strength



Is your stomach still weak before the big presentation, while your colleague is still calmly finishing his breakfast? You want to cook for your relatives this Christmas, but are worried that you won't succeed as well as your sister, who usually invites you? In such situations we like to drive ourselves crazy. But that doesn't have to be the case.  
Of course, there are plenty of reasons to doubt yourself. Especially when we have things in mind that we don't do often or for the first time. Nevertheless, one can learn to calm and strengthen oneself and thus gain a self-confident charisma. This happens on the one hand from the inner attitude, on the other hand from the outer appearance. Both can be steered in the direction we want, if we pay attention to a few little things.



 

Clothes make the man

It is certainly not that simple, because apart from clothing, the way we give each other is also important. Nevertheless, the proverb has a true core. You may have already experienced that you are viewed differently when you are dressed particularly nicely. This also works when we look in the mirror ourselves. We feel better when we look good and feel good. Our mood is also transferred to our behaviour. Therefore we should use the possibility to outsmart our brain by paying attention to our appearance. A similar trick is what psychology calls "body feedback". For example, we usually smile when we are happy. But a smile also leads to the release of happiness hormones. In this way we can influence our feelings through conscious movement or body language. At the same time we signal a different attitude to our fellow human beings. So take a posture that demonstrates strength, both inwardly and outwardly: upright, straight, open. The effect of our voice falls into the same category.



Safe appearance with total ignorance

With absolute conviction of ourselves we can achieve a lot. The good news is: you can learn that. We can train our brains to build up instead of downsizing. In doing so, our inner voice helps us. We all have praised or blamed ourselves before. The question is, what outweighs. Answer this question for yourself. Are you more critical than encouraging yourself? Question your inner voice and formulate the next time consciously positive. This is easier if we set ourselves realistic goals that we can then commend on achieving. In addition, a sense of achievement inspires us. However, do not consider failure as a broken leg. It is important to accept mistakes. Nobody is perfect and sometimes something goes wrong. This is normal and we can learn from mistakes. Just think of all the achievements that would not exist without the persistence of the inventors. Psychologists have also found that good persuasion and praise of the inner voice is better accepted when we call ourselves by the first name instead of "me". Imagine it as a confidant coaching you. When we talk to us in the third person, we deceive ourselves to a distance that helps us to look at things more soberly. Surprisingly, that's enough for the encouragement to work. Combined with positive formulations, you strengthen yourself. Good preparation is everything; that even applies to the psyche. Then also the extraordinary succeeds.

 

 

Insecure people speak rather quietly. Therefore - even if you don't feel like it - consciously speak a little louder. Confident appearance with complete cluelessness We can achieve a lot with absolute conviction of ourselves. The good news is: you can learn that. We can train our brains to build ourselves up instead of to go down. Our inner voice helps us to do this. We have all praised or rebuked ourselves at one time or another. The question is what prevails. Answer this question for yourself. Do you criticize yourself more than you encourage yourself? Question your inner voice and formulate the next time consciously positive. This is easier if we set ourselves realistic goals, for the achievement of which we can then praise ourselves. We are also inspired by a sense of achievement. But don't regard failure as a broken leg. It is important to accept mistakes. Nobody is perfect and sometimes something goes wrong. This is normal and we can learn from mistakes. Just think of all the achievements that would not exist without the persistence of the inventors. Psychologists have also found that good persuasion and praise of the inner voice is better accepted if we use the first name instead of "I". Think of it as a confidant coaching you. When we talk to ourselves in the third person, we pretend to be at a distance that helps us to look at things more soberly. Surprisingly, this is enough for the encouragement to work. Combined with positive formulations you strengthen yourself in this way. Good preparation is everything; that even applies to the psyche. Then the extraordinary also succeeds. 

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